December 2011
131 posts
That's me in the corner: Day 17. →
inmysecretlife:
Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
I have a couple, actually.
As a whole, we are not criminals, freaks, unattractive, unable to form normal relationships or disturbed. Unless we are. And that is usually unrelated to our kink.
We look and act…
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Fetish
I LOVE “BOOTS” I LOVE ”BOOBS” They are just one letter apart.
I may just have a “BOO_S FETISH”.
Where am I going to find a group for THAT?!?
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One Dominant's Journey: My Dominance recognizes a... →
Love this passage: “Time is the friend and the hidden enemy of Dominance. It is human nature to be impatient and impulsive, to act or react based on what we see, hear or otherwise perceive something to be. The problem arises when we know what we want but don’t know how to get it … or don’t know what we want, but see others having a good time and feel left out as a result of our own...
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Giving is giving
I recently had an ex-girlfriend Google me only to find that my alter ego has far more presence in world wide interweb than I do. Absolutely nothing comes up when I Google myself (lol…still makes me giggle every time I say it)…but this blog and other references come up when I my scene name is searched.
So, what does it mean when your alter ego supercedes your actual self presence?
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At last count...
I have 20,500 BDSM-related pics that I have collected over the years. This does not include videos…just pictures. I just found a box of old bondage catalogs and magazines that I need to scan in as well.
Do you think this qualifies as an “obsession”? I suppose if all I was doing was sitting at my computer collecting these images in the hopes that someday, someone would...
November 2011
118 posts
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Lap Dance
“The only difference between dancing in your chair and a lap dance is whether or not you are alone.” - Leathertyke
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Open Forum
OK, time to open this up for questions. Over 30 years as Bisexual, Switch, in the BDSM lifestyle. Someone MUST have a question?
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Balance
I was thinking today about balance. It struck me that in all things that are affected by some outside force whether controllable or not…greater balance comes in direct proportion to the number of solid foundations upon which one can rest. For me, balance comes in threes. Or, more specifically…thresomes. The more stable forces one has counteracting whatever forces would otherwise...
The perfect man will treat me like I'm a princess,...
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Dominance
evokit-notes:
The simplest marker for dominance is that one individual is allowed to do something that others are not allowed to do.
Human beings have creatively defined, rationalized, and institutionalized many markers of dominance and authority, ranging from uniforms, titles, insignia of rank, to tone of language, mode of address, the corner office suite, size of bank account, make of car,...
A Blog Called Everything: Unmasking The Green-Eyed... →
Excellent observation and accurate perspective.
a-blog-called-everything:
Bellow is an excerpt from from this article. I highly recommend you read the whole thing.
Our society is addicted to three core beliefs about relationships that are almost guaranteed to create jealousy even in the most well-adjusted people. Most of us have absorbed these beliefs without…
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Extreme Makeover BDSM Home Edition
As I was watching Exteme Makeover:Home Edition last night I began to think about what the episode would be like had I been chosen. Not that I have enough ailments or tragedy in my life to even come close to qualifying. I don’t have 10 children. Everyone in my household has all their limbs, eyes…can hear and see. We are all gainfully employed. We are all mobile and don’t...
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THEIR PETT: three more days! (ramble ramble) →
theirpet:
three! only three!!! that’s not very long at all, considering i’ve got a bunch to do this weekend. :) i’m excited! Mistress will be helping me make Oreo Truffles for Thanksgiving dinner - which isn’t a surprise anymore, since i totally forgot and told Sir about it..! - and Sir will be giving me…
“Men are terrified of a woman’s depth of love and the energy that moves as a...”
– David Deida (via stayclassyandcarryon)
“My Dominance comes from My heart. Just as My love does. Do not confuse...”
– Erospainter on what a dominant/submissive relationships should be - based on love, respect and consent (via a-blog-called-everything)
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Tourettes&Sex.: Choices. →
tourettesandsex:
well, I can do so many things, what would you like first?
Lick. Bite. Suck. Tease?
Craddle me in the small of your back as I trace your spine with my fingertips.
Feel the anticipation build in me as I lower my lips to your neck and breath in deep.
Winding down an invisible path, leaving…
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“BDSM without consent and mutual respect is just abuse with a different name. A...”
– Very well stated. Kudos!
(via a-blog-called-everything)
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My Mistress...
My Mistress and I have been together for about 3 years now. I searched for almost 3 decades before I found the One who so closely shared my kinks and desires. That is not to say, by any means, that I regret any other encounters and/or service to any others who have claimed me. I have had some amazing opportunities to serve some incredible, beautiful, and adventurous people. I’m simply...
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Be my love in the rain.: I think polyamory is... →
Enlightened and obviously from a place of Love…not fear and insecurity. Absolutely necessary to truly experience the real essence, and reap all the benefits, of a Polyamorous lifestyle.
mmik:
Personally, I would consider myself a monogamist, but if I ever found myself in Love with someone who considered themselves polyamourous than I would totally respect their need to have multiple...
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Negotiation = Communication
A good example of a simple checklist that can be cut and pasted into an email:http://www.vanilla-not.com/reallife/checklist.html